Starting Over but Not from Scratch and author of Bouncing with Style. #9
With my newfound freedom I found newfound heartache. The year I had spent working on myself by reading, writing, walking and being silent left a huge void in my local community as to who I was and what was going on with me. Not that it was anyone’s business but when a happy mom of two falls off the map, the gossiping begins. It didn’t help that the girlfriend of my ex had been filling that void with her half-wit analysis of me along with a heavy dose of make me look like a fool to cover her sins.
My personal favorite was the line of gossip started by the ex that claimed I was so mean to my husband that she just felt so sorry for him she fell in love with him. Now that I am single, the last thing I think about for a man in my life is how sorry I am for him. She not so deftly painted me with an evil brush to make her affair with my husband while I was pregnant with his child seem less egregious.
It was interesting, yet horrifying, like watching the after effects of a car wreck, to walk around town at school and local events and hear from the very willing gossip mongers to patch me in to latest on my social life. Apparently I was a depressed, near suicidal workaholic with a sex addiction and lesbian tendencies who happened to be a compulsive liar coupled by a maniacally powerful mean streak. Oh! And I was a bad mother, too. With all this press, I did what I knew best to do. I hid. I went back into my black box for some more personal work and some serious chickening out.
I didn’t want to explain. I didn’t want to defend myself and I certainly didn’t want to honor the crap that had been spewed about town about my personal life. It was too much. I didn’t know anyone here and I wasn’t about to make a new friend when the only local friend left with my husband. I vowed that I would stay single the rest of my life, never make a new friend and be the worlds sexiest hermit.
Internet Brand Strategist Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is also the host of Motherhood Talk Radio and Military Mom Talk Radio powered by Toginet Communications. A powerful advocate for mothers’ right to choose what is best for their family and using technology to make those choices possible, Sandra Beck paves the way for women today to determine the course of their own lives and live their best possible life. Sandra Beck makes her home inActon,California. She is the single mother of two young boys, Max and Zachary Levin and she is the author of The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working from Home and Blogphoria – How to Reach Millions without Spending a Dime.
Sandra Beck has authored a Life Coaching Lesson Series titled Starting Over but Not From Scratch and author of Bouncing with Style. based on her experience as a stay at home mother, full time working mother, part time working mother and self employed mother working from home. It is her hope that these articles help women create their own life with respect to their needs of themselves and their family. These articles are offered for informational purposes only and are not intended to take the place of a licensed professional.