Four years ago if you had said to me that I would be happy and joyful and silly and carefree I would have taken you to have your head examined. I was struggling every day to make ends meet, to be a single mom to an infant and toddler. My mother was dying from cancer and I was going through foreclosure. Yes, the stuff dreams are made of.
I want to a few therapists. Some were good. Some not so much. I talked to friends and got great advice and listened to some really stupid stuff. I was like a pinball running into bumpers, getting slammed across the room and rolling around sometimes aimless racked with fear. Not a good look.
Then one therapist said the problem you are having right now is that you don’t believe in the possibility that things will get better. I looked at her. She was right. She told me to fake it until I make it and I rolled my eyes. So I tried it. Every day for thirty days I read these index cards in which I wrote out in marker about the wonderful things in my life. How I am grateful for my health. I am grateful I can earn a living. I am grateful for my kids. I am grateful for the doctors and nurses working hard to extend my mom’s life.
The situation didn’t changed, but the way I thought about it did. Instead of feeling fear, gloom, doom and sadness, I felt stronger, more hopeful and began to believe in the possibility that things would get better. Changing my thinking didn’t change the outcome. I still lost my house. I still lost my mom. But I didn’t suffer as much along the way as I began to manage my mind. Best part of it, it’s free. No drugs. No appointments. Just 30 days, a few index cards and a pen.
Internet Brand Strategist Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is also the host of Motherhood Talk Radio and Military Mom Talk Radio powered by Toginet Communications. A powerful advocate for mothers’ right to choose what is best for their family and using technology to make those choices possible, Sandra Beck paves the way for women today to determine the course of their own lives and live their best possible life. Sandra Beck makes her home inActon,California. She is the single mother of two young boys, Max and Zachary Levin and she is the author of The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working from Home and Blogphoria – How to Reach Millions without Spending a Dime.
Sandra Beck has authored a Life Coaching Lesson Series titled Starting Over but Not From Scratch and author of Bouncing with Style. based on her experience as a stay at home mother, full time working mother, part time working mother and self employed mother working from home. It is her hope that these articles help women create their own life with respect to their needs of themselves and their family. These articles are offered for informational purposes only and are not intended to take the place of a licensed professional.