Monthly Archives: December 2011

Christmas without My Mom by Sandra Beck of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but Not From Scratch

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Sandra Beck

Merry Christmas from Sandra Beck

By Sandra Beck, Bouncing with Style

This year will be the first Christmas without my mom. My mom was my best friend. She was my strongest supporter and my biggest advocate. The kids didn’t sense much change as they were focused around the presents and what Santa and “Grandma Angel” which we refer to as my mom had brought them.

For me though there was this constant waiting as if my mom was in the bathroom or in the kitchen. I kept expecting her to walk in. I guess after 40 Chritmas’ with my mom’s desserts and her fancy tables, its to be expected. I could see in my brother and my dad the sadness and the forced merriment for the kids. It was like a light was out at our holiday table and though I cooked our traditional meal I totally forgot the dessert in the freezer.  No one noticed.

I could feel my mom with us in some ways and in other ways I just kept waiting. After three months its still hard to believe she is no longer physically with us. I know this is a sad topic for a holiday post but I know there are lots of other women out there like me stuggling to make it through their first Christmas without their mom.  It is for them and for me that I write this post.

For everyone who has lost something they love this holiday season I wish you the grace to handle your grief, the strength to get through the days and the comfort of someone who is suffering along with you in your loss.  And for my mom, our Grandma Angel, I wish you a Merry Christmas up in Heaven as you watch down upon us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Internet Brand Strategist Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is also the host of Motherhood Talk Radio and Military Mom Talk Radio powered by Toginet Communications.  Her shows are also rebroadcast on the RockStarRadio Network and available on Itunes.

She is the single mother of two elementary school age boys and she is the author of The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working from Home and Blogphoria – How to Reach Millions without Spending a Dime. Sandra Beck has authored a Life Coaching Lesson Series titled Starting Over but Not from Scratch and author of Bouncing with Style. based on her experience as a stay at home mother, full time working mother, part time working mother and self employed mother working from home. Sandra is a graduate ofNorthwesternUniversity with her undergraduate in Journalism and her Master’s in Advertising.

 

These articles are offered for informational purposes only and are not intended to take the place of a licensed professional. Sandra Beck can be reached at Sandrabeck2@aol.com.

Bouncing with Baby-By Danee Kiernan of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but Not From Scratch

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Danee Kienan co-author Bouncing with Style

Danee Kienan co-author Bouncing with Style

By Danee Kiernan      Life is Almost Always Good and co-author of Bouncing With Style. #20

My good friend and writing partner, Sandra, checked in yesterday to see if I was staying up to date on our blog and manuscript and to see how my bounce is coming along with the recent addition of our long awaited newborn baby girl…..

Dear Sandra,

Thank goodness I made it into e-mail and yours was there this morning…..I mean this afternoon……You made my day…..

You asked how things are going ….I’m completely and utterly exhausted…Pretty excited though because I did devote two minutes to a shower this morning…..(To peel off 2-3 days worth of motherhood)

Jim’s with baby Emerson at the cardiologist (heart murmur) and he had to bring 2 year old Torren along as well (home sick with a fever and cough)…..I just made it downstairs to my office to work and my ears are ringing because of the sweet sound of silence…..

You would think that by 10 at night, Jim and I would crash and get some shut eye before the newborn all night party begins…..But we are so tired and buzzing from barely making it through another day, that all we can do is crawl to the couch, huddle together in the fetal position and have a glass (or 2…or 3) of wine……..Sometimes we talk about how tomorrow we will be more organized, more awake, more capable of keeping up with our reality….

I have to admit I’m feeling pretty old these days……Emme’s up every hour or two all night……Jim & I take turns……At a birth weight of 4 pounds, 10 ounces, she eats and poops constantly so we are constantly filling her up or cleaning up the leftovers….Our little girl does not like to be messy)…….In spite of the schedule, she is the sweetest baby ever and we have completely fallen in love with her……(even though we have only seen her with glazed over, comatose and closing eyes). 

Cannot manage to keep the house even remotely clean……(I would even settle for straightened….or walk able pathways)… Sigh…..  I am back to drinking my own pot of coffee each day…..and sneaking in 10 minute power naps here and there….Still trying to cook and serve real food so we really don’t completely go off the deep end health wise… but it’s a challenge and energy reserves are at a low and time is at a premium…….

I know this will pass…..Our beautiful blessing, .Emme, has been here a month already…..We received the phone call that she had arrived on a Wednesday afternoon at 4pm….We visited her, stopped on the way home that night for newborn baby essentials and brought her home from the hospital the next day……Life is funny that way….Timing can be perfect and imperfect all at the same time….Emme’s arrival just happened to coincide with the first day of school for 6 of our kids, Collin’s last football season, gymnastics x4, horse lessons x1, dance lessons x2, swimming lessons x4 and new school x 5…..Yawn….There I’m done ranting……Just let me guzzle the last of my cold, strong coffee and I will be good to go… The caffeine is going to kick in any minute now…….any minute……any minute now…….

Thanks for asking about the family….All is fine here except for the plague that has enveloped our domicile!!!!  Ugh…6 out of 12 kids are ill…A trip to the pediatrician confirmed that a virus is the culprit…..Doc assured me that antibiotics won’t help and that everyone should be fine in the next 10-14 DAYS?!?!?!?!?!?!  WHAT?!?!!?!?!!

Our instructions are to not let anyone drink from the same cup, eat from the same bowl, share utensils, share towels or kiss each other……..Haaahaahaaahaa GASP……No problem…..sigh…..I have often wondered how a child size human body can produce so MUCH in the way of body by-products when little ones are sick…..Tissue anyone?????

Well Sandra, thanks again for checking in…… Love to you and your family……. I’ll check back in with a bounce update once I peel myself off of the formula and fruit juice soaked floor…..No, I didn’t fall, it just looked so comfortable …..and I thought just a few minutes wouldn’t hurt….

Love & Hugs,

Danee

Danee Kiernan is a writer, parent, entrepreneur and co-author of Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch.  She connects with others based on her experiences as a full time woman, full time mom (adoptive, birth & foster), stay at home mom, working woman and business owner.  She hopes that sharing her experiences openly will help others to find their bounce.  Danee is a powerful advocate for women’s rights, especially every woman’s right to choose her own destiny and build the life that she desires.

Danee KIernan earned a BS degree in Elementary Education with an early childhood specialization from Iowa Wesleyan College, and an MBA from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Danee believes in the importance of love, family and pursuing dreams.   She makes her home in Wisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 12 children. 

You can reach Danee Kiernan at daneekiernan@gmail.com