By Danee Kiernan
Life is Almost Always Good and co-author of Bouncing with Style #32
I have always noticed a certain Mom at my kids’ school. She has bounce in her step and an aura of positivity around her. She always looks me in the eye and says “Hello”.
After school on Friday, I decided to approach her and share some positive feedback…..
What person does not want to hear something good? I thought I would tell her that I have always appreciated her friendly smiles and the positive spirit that surrounds her.
As I approached her in the play yard, I could sense her weakened state. I hesitated, but then she looked right at me.
It turns out that she had just come from a divorce court proceeding/appointment at which she learned that her (soon to be) ex-husband had actually had multiple affairs (instead of the one that she thought had recently ended her marriage)….One of those affairs had lasted 7 years, and took place during her pregnancy with their child…..… She shared her story in a way that told me she was in shock and still trying to make sense of it.
Her pain was evident. She was emotionally devastated and I stood there helpless until I had the sense to reach out and hug her.
It was just another reminder that most of the time we walk through our day consumed in our own lives and completely oblivious to those around us and what they might be going through.
I vow to be more open to others and the messages they send to me.
If we aren’t making a difference in this life, what are we making?
Danee Kiernan is a writer, parent, entrepreneur and co-author of Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch. She connects with others based on her experiences as a full time woman, full time mom (adoptive, birth & foster), stay at home mom, working woman and business owner. She hopes that sharing her experiences openly will help others to find their bounce. Danee is a powerful advocate for women’s rights, especially every woman’s right to choose her own destiny and build the life that she desires.
Danee KIernan earned a BS degree in Elementary Education with an early childhood specialization from Iowa Wesleyan College and an MBA from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Danee believes in the importance of love, family and pursuing dreams. She makes her home in Wisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 11 children.
You can reach Danee Kiernan at email@example.com