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Saying Stupid Things By Sandra Beck of Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch

Sandra Beck co-author Bouncing with Style

Sandra Beck co-author Bouncing with Style

By Sandra Beck, Bouncing with Style

Recently my mother died after a long battle with breast cancer. This was the culmination of tragedy in my life including separation, divorce, custody battles, financial devastation and foreclosure.

I was standing in line at my son’s elementary school and a woman said to me, “I heard your mother died. You must be so happy she’s with God.” I looked at her blankly. “What???”

“God has her now and you should rejoice.”

I wanted to slap her. I did believe my mother was with God and I was happy she was out of pain, but she was only dead for two days and we hadn’t even had the funeral. I know she was trying to comfort me the best way she knew how but the last thing I wanted to hear 48 hours after my mother died was that I should be happy.  She is the one that should be happy I didn’t unload all the feelings stewing in my heart on her helpful, smiling shoulders.

In the best and the worst of circumstances people say stupid things.  I think of my one friend serving inAfghanistanand a neighbor criticized this woman Marine for leaving her family. I politely said to the woman that our neighbor was out there protecting your right to say something stupid like that.  I didn’t get invited back.

But I did realize that people try to help, they think what they are saying is helpful or they are just stupid. So next time you get a comment you can stand and fight, die on that hill or walk away and live to fight another day.  In the era of political correctness I think its okay to say people say stupid things.  Who knows maybe you think I’m being stupid?

But I am thankful for our men and women who protect our freedoms – even if it is to say stupid things.

Internet Brand Strategist Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is also the host of Motherhood Talk Radio and Military Mom Talk Radio powered by Toginet Communications.  A powerful advocate for mothers’ right to choose what is best for their family and using technology to make those choices possible, Sandra Beck paves the way for women today to determine the course of their own lives and live their best possible life.  Sandra Beck makes her home inActon,California. She is the single mother of two young boys, Max and Zachary Levin and she is the author of The Smart Woman’s Guide to Working from Home and Blogphoria – How to Reach Millions without Spending a Dime.

Sandra Beck has authored a Life Coaching Lesson Series titled  Starting Over but Not From Scratch and author of Bouncing with Style. based on her experience as a stay at home mother, full time working mother, part time working mother and self employed mother working from home.  It is her hope that these articles help women create their own life with respect to their needs of themselves and their family.  These articles are offered for informational purposes only and are not intended to take the place of a licensed professional.